Understanding yourself

With the help of Supporting Change

When understanding who you are, you will become aware that you are not just a mum or dad, a brother or sister, a friend or colleague, you are an individual. But you are also not your name, just as you are not a hairdresser nor a banker nor a mechanic, these are labels to describe you by others. You are not defined by the amount of money in your bank account, this gives you different choices. You are not the health of your physical body, this gives you flexibility of physical movement. The I that is you is Individual, it is unique, it is who You are.


When you appreciate that you are an individual, you become aware that you matter, your opinion matters; this develops self-esteem and brings confidence. There may be times when you get angry and feel out of control. If you get angry consider this –  anger is a product of the past and you get angry because something triggers within you. You are programmed to respond; your chemistry starts to change, this builds momentum and seeks an escape. What if the trigger was removed? You can find your trigger and you can change your reaction. You can take control of your life. (FERT)

Who we perceive ourselves to be is largely a result of previous generations for example, the DNA or genes of our parents and grandparents; however, not only our physical similarities but our culture and values are passed through the generations. We are nurtured in ways sometimes to hear prejudices and limitations, to hear the thoughts and opinions of those that care for us as we grow. These opinions were formed from evidence from their lives, often without knowing that they could change. When we hear words or experience actions they are collated in our subconscious until we are at an age that we can rationalise and reason what is true for us. This is one reason why many teenagers feel the need to ‘rebel’, to veer away from parental guidelines that no longer hold the same values. But are they replaced by the suggestion of peers or others who choose to influence us with their thoughts? So much of who we think we are is founded on other’s beliefs and ideals with very little consideration as to whether it is appropriate for us. All of these can change if we choose.

Every experience that we’ve had in our life is stored within us. Most of them are insignificant a part of the habitual process of living, getting out of bed, bathing, cleaning teeth. Some experiences hold an energy of stress, trauma anger or love. The memories are often forgotten or stored and yet the energy impact remains. No one person has the same life experience or reacts in the same way as another. We are a product of our life experiences, which is why it is us that needs to change when we want something else.   

We are beings of nature and it is nature that compels us to move through life. It is not possible for nature to be stationary, it revolves around cycles, seasons of growth, flourishing seasons, seasons of dormancy. Unless something changes these cycles continue. It is also not possible for us to be stationary, we continually move and yet many remain on habitual cycles that are not wanted. How do we change?  You have already started. Whatever you are looking to change we can support you by finding where your beliefs, reactions and understanding is and knowing that anything can change if you chose it.

Today we are a result of our past thinking and if repeated we shall be what we are thinking today. Thoughts are energy and energy is drawn to similar energy. The energy of the problem is not the energy of the solution, the thoughts of wanting something are not the same as having something. Whatever you feel inside matches what is in your experience, unless you seek change and when momentum can slow this enables change.  

The Roman Emperor, Marcus Aurelius said,

“very little is need to make a happy life, it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”

Mission statement


Our vision is for everyone to feel better about themselves and live a life of freedom.

Disclaimer; We at supporting change now, do not give advice, we are not medical professionals, psychiatric professionals or counsellors. We do not judge you nor do we want to change any aspect about you. The information and techniques are to help you to change what you want to change.

Diane Merrick founder of supporting change now and author of It Will Come To You, present the entire contents of this website for educational purposes only. The author and any representatives are not trained medical or psychiatric professionals, nor do they replace any professionals. The information is not intended to replace or diagnose any medical or psychological conditions, nor to claim to treat, prevent, alleviate or cure any conditions. In presenting this information no attempt is being made to provide diagnosis, care, treatment or rehabilitation of individuals nor to apply any medical, mental health or human development principles for any physical or psychiatric conditions. Any techniques that the author addresses whether on the website or other media or resources only pertain to energetic/spiritual issues that may affect well-being.   

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